Dating safety tips

We know you are excited and motivated when we meet new people online or offline, but safety first! In today’s social environment, you should always use caution when interacting with people the first or second time. Using your best judgment is an understatement, and you should put your safety at the forefront when meeting a person for the first in regardless if it is online or offline. While you can’t control the actions of others, there are things you can do to help you stay safe during meeting new people on a dating website or that person you are meeting for the first time in public. At Purposely Dating.com we want to help you have an awesome experience meeting new and exciting people on our website. 

Online Safety

You Should Never Send Money To A Person You Just Met! 

The Web, E-mail, and Social Media Websites are filled with people seeking to liberate your hard-earned cash from your pockets to their pocket. 

Therefore, we advise you never to send money, especially over wire transfer, to anyone regardless of the situation. Wiring money is like sending cash – it’s nearly impossible to reverse the transaction or trace where the money went. Never share your financial information or a great deal of personal information with people you just met. There are some well throughout and planned scammers online and those that troll dating websites to collect your information and steal your identity. If any users on our website ask you to wire, cash app, or send a money order to them, we employ you to report this user immediately.  

For tips on avoiding romance scams, check out some advice from the U.S Federal Trade Commission on the FTC website or in the video below.

Protect Your Personal Information At All Times

 Never share personal information such as your social security number, home or work address, or details about your daily routine (e.g., that you go to a certain gym every Monday) with people you don’t know. If you are on www.DatingWithChildren.com and have children, we recommend you limit post information about your children. Avoid sharing details like your children’s names, after-school activities, school, ages, and genders.

If you are a parent, limit the information you share about your children on your profile and early communications. Avoid sharing details such as your children’s names, where they go to school, or their ages or genders.

Communicate on PurposelyDating.com – We Recommend You To Stay on the Platform

 When communicating with your next love interest, keep your conversation on PurposelyDating.com until you feel comfortable with your prospective dater. Suppose you feel comfortable moving your conversation to text, messaging apps, e-mail, or phone. In that case, we recommend you set up a secondary line/layer of communication via a third-party APP.

Take Caution When Dating Long Distance and Overseas Relationships

 Scammers use many dating websites to fraud people out of money and steal your identity. Then create a profile on the website and claim they are from the USA or any other country of origin hosting the dating website or APP in an attempt to get to know you. They said something similar to this message which was taken from one of our member’s profile communication after taking their conversation offline: 

“I’m originally from Mexico was born there but moved to the United States 🇺🇸 was raised the. I lived there with my mother and father happily when my father was given a contract to Ghana here. So when he came to Ghana he died out of prostate cancer so his family members was fighting with us over the property my father left for us and my mother did not want any long talking so she decided to run with me to Ghana here to see my father died body and bury him. So i am now in Ghana with my mother and do you have any problem with me living in Ghana here.” 

Watch out for scammers who claim to be from your country but stuck somewhere else, especially if they ask for financial help to return home. Be wary of anyone who will not meet in person or talk on a phone/video call-they may not be who they say they are. If someone is avoiding your questions or pushing for a serious relationship without meeting or getting to know you first – that’s a red flag.

Report All Suspicious and Offensive Behavior

You know when someone’s crossed the line and when they do, we want to know about it. Block and report anyone that violates our terms. Here are some examples of violations:

  • Requests for money or donations
  • Underage users
  • Harassment, threats, and offensive messages
  • Inappropriate or harmful behavior during or after meeting in person
  • Fraudulent profiles
  • Spam or solicitation, including links to commercial websites or attempts to sell products or services

You can report any concerns about suspicious behavior from any profile page or messaging window or contact [email protected]. For more information, check out our Community Guidelines.

Protect Your Account

 Your password security should be at the top of your list when creating an account on our website. Please use a unique password for your account activation and change it every 3-6 months. So, pick a strong password using Upper case, Lower case, Numbers, and Special Characters, and always be careful when logging into your account from a public or shared computer. PurposelyDating.com will never send you an e-mail asking for your username and password information – if you receive an e-mail asking for account information, report it immediately.

Contacting PurposelyDating.com

 Please remember we will NEVER ask you for your password, share your screen with us, or require payment to receive customer support. 

If you need to contact PurposelyDating.com, we recommend you contact us via the contact form on our website. Please do not call phone numbers found in a Google search – we do not provide general support over the phone for our customers on this dating website.

Meeting in Person

Don’t Be In A Rush

 We recommend you take your time and get to know the other person before agreeing to meet or chat on PurposelyDating.com. Find the right dating with the mindset of Purposely Dating can be difficult but don’t be afraid to ask the hard questions to screen dater for potential red flags or personal dealbreakers. A PurposelyDating.com call, FaceTime, or Skype video call can be a useful screening tool before the meeting. If a profile member asks you to rush into a relationship at the onset of a meeting, be aware and ask detailed questions. 

Meet in Public and Stay in Public On The First.

 We recommend you meet for safety reasons the first few times in a populated, well-lighted public place – never at your home, your date’s home, or any other private location. If your date pressures you to go to a private location, over a friend’s house, or in a place, you both didn’t agree on end the date.

Tell Friends and Family About Your Plans

 Tell a friend or family member our plans for the date. You should include the full name of the person you are going on a date with, when the date is, and where you’re going on a date. You can insist on an extra precaution at the start of the date, ask to take a photo of your date, and send that photo to a friend or family. Have your cell phone charged and with you at all times.

Your Transportations To and From Your First Date Is Very Important!

 Have full control over how you arrive and leave your date, so we commend you going and leaving is a separate mode of transportation. Having your transportation allows you to leave whenever you wish if you are not feeling the date or your level of comfort changes. If you’re driving yourself, it’s a good idea to have a backup plan such as a ride-share app or a friend to pick you up.

Know Your Limits

 The words “know your limits” can apply to all parts of the dating process. Therefore, you need to know who you are, what you want, and be aware of your limitations with drugs or alcohol. If you drink alcohol, we recommend a one-drink limit. Over drinking on a date can impair your judgment and alertness, leading you down the wrong direction on the date. If your date tries to pressure you to use drugs or drink more than you’re comfortable with, end the date immediately. 

Don’t Leave Drinks or Personal Items Unattended.

 Equally important is DON’T leave your drink unattended at any time. You should make sure that you see where your drink comes from and know where it is at all times. Only accept drinks poured or served directly from the bartender or server, so don’t receive drinks from your date if you did not see them made by the bartender. We have heard the stories of substances slipped into drinks to facilitate sexual assault. These substances, for the most part, are odorless, colorless, and tasteless. Also, keep your phone, purse, wallet, and anything containing personal information on you at all times.

If You Feel Uncomfortable, Leave

 It’s okay to end the date early if you’re feeling uncomfortable or don’t make a good connection with your date. Listen to your gut; is it rarely wrong. If you feel unsafe or feel you have been drugged, ask a bartender or server for help, call a friend, or call 911 for help.

Sexual Health & Consent

Protect Yourself

 When used correctly and consistently, condoms can significantly reduce the risk of contracting and passing on STI’s like the following: 

  1. RPR – Syphilis Test  
  2. Chlamydia Test
  3. Gonorrhoeae Test
  4. HIV Test
  5. Trichomoniasis
  6. Hepatitis A, B & C

Be aware of STIs like Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV) 1 & 2 may be passed on the virus through kissing and skin-to-skin contact. The risk of contracting some STIs can be reduced by proper protection. 

Know Your Status

 Not all STIs show symptoms and you don’t want to be in the dark about your and your partner’s status. Stay on top of your health and prevent the spread of STIs by getting tested regularly. Here’s where you can receive private STIs and STD Testing:  10-Panel STD Testing. Your STD test results are available in 1-2 days. 

Having the Conversation About STD Testing Before The Sexual Encounter.

 Communication is everything: Before you get physically intimate with a partner, talk about sexual health and STI testing. And be aware – in some places, it’s a crime to pass on an STI knowingly. Need help starting the conversation? Here are some tips.

Consent

 All sexual activity must start with consent and should include ongoing check-ins with your partner. Verbal communication can help you and your partner ensure that you respect each other’s boundaries. The person that is given consent has the right to withdraw that consent at any time. Sex from one person to the next is never owed to anyone. Do not proceed if your partner seems uncomfortable or unsure or if your partner is unable to consent due to the effects of drugs or alcohol. Read more about it here.

 Remember having sex in a dating capacity is about consent from the two parties, and it is an equal exchange in the experience. Our Dating Safety Tips are just recommendations. Even if you follow all of our tips, there is no guarantee you will reduce the risk of meeting the wrong person, having an unpleasant dating experience, and increasing your chances of meeting the right person. It is always a risk meeting the wrong person or going on a bad date. However, if you are ready to date and have done all the internal work needed to date properly, our website will make it easier to find the right person. If you wish to reduce the chances of meeting the right person, consider joining our Dating and Relationship Coaching Programs or taking one of our successful dating courses. Our training and courses will help you find the perfect person for you.

 If you have a negative experience, please know that it is not your fault and help is available. Report any incidents to [email protected] and consider reaching out to one of the resources.